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Glossary

Gaslighting

What it means

Gaslighting is a pattern of manipulation where someone denies things you clearly remember, twists your words, or insists your reactions are 'crazy' — until you start distrusting your own memory. Over time it wears down your confidence in what you saw, heard, and felt.

What it can look like

After a heated fight last night, you bring it up calmly today. They look confused and say, 'That never happened — you're imagining things again. You always exaggerate.' You end the conversation apologizing for something you didn't do.

What you can do

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