Narcissist First AidCalm, private, step-by-step

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About & sources

Narcissist First Aid is a free, private, step-by-step guide for people dealing with a narcissist in their life. It exists because the moment you start to recognize the pattern, you need calm, practical help — not a paywall, a sales pitch, or a wall of jargon.

What this is, honestly

The content here is general guidance compiled from established approaches to narcissistic-abuse recovery, high-conflict communication, and trauma-informed self-care. It is not a substitute for professional help, and it cannot diagnose anyone — including the person you’re thinking about.

The content is intended to be reviewed by a licensed mental-health professional or domestic-violence advocate. If you're a clinician and would like to help, please get in touch.

Approaches & references

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline — safety planning framework and tactics drawn from thehotline.org.
  • "Grey rock" method — a low-reaction communication approach widely used in narcissistic-abuse recovery.
  • BIFF responses — Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm: a high-conflict communication method (Bill Eddy, High Conflict Institute).
  • Trauma-informed therapy & EMDR — evidence-based modalities used in recovery from emotional and psychological abuse.
  • Adult children of narcissists / childhood emotional neglect — literature — including the work of Jonice Webb, Lindsay Gibson, and others.

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Disclaimer

This site offers general educational information and emotional support. It is not medical, psychological, or legal advice, and it cannot diagnose anyone. For decisions about your safety, mental health, custody, or employment, please consult a licensed professional (therapist, doctor, attorney, or domestic-violence advocate). If you are in crisis, contact emergency services or a crisis line right away. Hotline numbers depend on the country you select.